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The Unconscious and the Conscious I'm interested in learning more about the unconscious and the way in which it relates to the conscious. Why does it seem to be such a reclusive character, unwilling to announce its wishes and defense stratagems to the conscious mind - why the premium on not being found out and on doing its work in private, sending its message in code? Can it be trusted (when, for a change, its wishes are known), or must its work always be suspect (as in reaction formation, where it gives orders to behave in an exact opposite way to its own wishes)? Is it a person's truest identity, the real "you," and if so, why the secretiveness or shyness? What goals are served by its insistence on always operating from a private place, like the Wizard of Oz? Who really runs things, the unconscious or the conscious identity, and why doesn't it just announce its orders rather than setting up a "conflict?" Why does unconscious material remain unconscious, as if it can see out, but we can't see in (without about $100k worth of psychoanalysis? There must be some terribly important reason for this arrangement, but what is it?
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Double Bind For purposes of my question, I understand a "double bind" to be a set of inherently conflicting instructions or requests, such that to follow one is to breach the other. The recipient cannot win; anything he does will violate one or the other, at best. I want to try to understand the double bind and the double binder, and to learn something about how to deal with both. Among my questions in that regard are: (1) is the double bind formulated by the conscious or the unconscious (and, therefore, can the unconscious think, plan a strategy, especially a devious or tricky strategy?) (2) what else can a frequent use of the double bind be but a strategy to confuse and frustrate, and (3) does it often have a discernible goal for the conscious awareness, such as to achieve some hidden or otherwise difficult agenda, or is any agenda just an emotional matter of which there is no conscious awareness? How may the "bindee" best hope to deal with the double bind treatment: (1) by patiently explaining to the double binder that one cannot possibly comply with one of her wishes without denying the other (so she will be made aware of what she is doing, if she wasn't already so in the first place), (2) by just telling the binder to buzz off, he doesn't have time to deal with such silly conflicting requests, or (3) something else? Can you recommend any sources of information on practical aspects of dealing with double bind behavior?
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